You would not say it out loud, but you might think that being fat makes you bad. Worthy of mockery. Deserving of shame. The worst thing in the world.
Being fat is a situation you might find yourself in if you have been in the habit of overeating or bingeing. It might be a physical revelation of inflammation or hormonal imbalance or lingering weight from past pregnancies.
But being fat, having excess body mass, weighing more than other people or more than you did at another point in time, does not make you bad.
If you have ever thought that you are a bad person for being overweight, it is because you believe that fat is wrong.
You might believe this because you think the way to to get fat is to overeat, and overeating is wrong, so fat is wrong.
You might believe this because you think fat is ugly, or that it requires laziness, or dirtiness, and all of those things are disgusting which makes fat disgusting which makes you disgusting.
While some people do become fatter for eating too much or not moving their bodies much, they do not become worse people, and they do not deserve public shaming.
Being fat may complicate your life (as may being thin) for a variety of reasons, but remember that fat is only extra weight your body is maintaining.
It is not your soul, your spirit, your mind. It isn’t your sense of humor, or your generosity, your intelligence, kindness, love, or wonder for the world.
It is a physical condition, and that is all.
You can lose weight. You can gain weight. And in the end, you choose what you believe about it. You choose what you do about it.
I am not suggesting that it does not matter if you are fat. Being fat may make you suspect to disease, early death, or a difficult life (physically, at the very least, emotionally, because other people, including yourself, may view your fatness as a problem needing to be shamed).
What I am suggesting is that it matters how you view fat.
If you are fat, how do you view yourself?
Safe? Hidden? Protected?
Powerful? Disabled to feel pain or sadness? Above vanity and superficiality?
Lazy? Glutton? Unfortunate? Ugly? Victim? Bad?
You have not become a worse person for weighing more than you did at another point in your life, or more than people around you.
You can believe that or not, but try to keep perspective in the matter.
Hatred is bad. Injustice is bad. Bitterness is bad.
But extra weight is just extra weight. Decide if you want to do anything about it, accept the situation you are in, and move forward how you like.
Reserve disdain for those tragedies that deserves such negative feelings.
Your body isn’t one of them.
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